Blue-eyed baby girl giggling worry free as her mother tells her to imitate sounds of animals. The most funny to her is the dragon “Rooooar”, she imiated her mother while laughing.
But as she turns to look at what she thought would be extended admiration of passengers in the bus, her face turned serious as she saw people not even slightly smiling at her giggles. looking at her mother, I can see that was the first encounter of social incompetance for that beautiful child; judging others.
That moment steered the idea of this post, one better described in this quote:
“We’ve spent so much time judging what other people created that we’ve created very, very little of our own.” ― Chuck Palahniuk
The fact of the matter is we do judge, to try and see where we stand accordingly. Sadly, it never is just that and it tend to grow to actually hurt us first and others around us.
A recent encounter of my own wrongdoing was again in the bus. a man comes in, looking rather unbalanced and asks people if they know a certain address to a place he intended to go. I instantly decided to ignore him to protect myself, for surely he’s either on drugs or drunk.
How far was I from wrong when as he thanked a delightful- in my eyes brave- woman who he enjoyed a conversation with, the man walked out delcaring he is a special needs rider so others take care of his steps. Honestly, I felt crushed inside. I wanted to run to him and appologise but I decided to look at him through the bus window and smile an apology to which he waved to me.
The people who are the most inspiring and free are those who just dont judge and take people as they are, believing that if a bad situation occurs they will overcome it. They just believe in their instinct and dont label people and “Put them in a box”waiting for the moving truck to pick them up later.
Accordingly, judging others may result in us seeing them as perfect. Although, we do fail to notice that what they are gesturing with their word and act could only be to protect themselves from how they have judged us. You see they have seen something admirable within you and instead of perhaps embracing it, they felt threatened and decided to pretend. If you are a true soul, you would’ve believed it.
That particular lesson took a while for me to understand and as much as I believe in seeing the beauty of people and try to embrace it to develop into a better human being, I end up putting myself down sometimes. After the blessed serenity I am working into reaching, the song “I can see clearly now, the rain has gone” fits the picture.
I leave you with this:
“People were created to be loved. Things were created to be used. The reason the world is in chaos, is because things are being loved, and people are being used.”- unknown